Post this list on your refrigerator for yourself and your children. Feel free to share it everywhere.
Relationship Red-Flags
Does your boy/girlfriend….
Say inappropriate things that make you feel uncomfortable?
Pressure you to give up your
hobbies and interests?
Constantly put down people who are close to
you (parents, family, friends, teachers)?
Get angry when you spend time
with other important people in your life?
Make you cry all the time?
Embarrass you in front of
others?
Make you feel worthless and
stupid?
Keep you from doing things you
want or like to do?
Act super jealous and
possessive?
Shove, slap, shake, or hit you?
Threaten to hurt or kill themselves?
Lie to you constantly? Hide
things from you?
Always expect to get their way?
Push for intimacy? “If you love
me….”
Flatter you one minute, put down
the next?
Isolate you from others? (your
support group)
Stalk you? Call constantly to
check on you?
Make you feel responsible for
his happiness?
Flirt with other girls in front
of you or behind your back?
Act like he will never survive
without you?
Act like you are lucky to have
him?
Make
you feel like you have to be perfect or you’ll be sorry?
Threaten
to hurt a loved one?
Make
you feel badly about your religious beliefs and try to change them to a more
“free thinking” belief?
Make
you feel like you will never find anyone else who could love you?
IF YOU HAVE ANSWERED
“YES” TO EVEN ONE OF THESE, YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP!!!
Train your children to know what subtle methods abusers use to suck-in their victims. Let's do what we can to stop the vicious cycles of abuse in our families. Don't let you or your children get caught up in the trap.
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I wonder how we can help young women see these red flags clearer?. It's heartbreaking to know that so many I've worked with in Young women face these same men. I feel helpless as I'm watching a sweet girl date an obvious abuser, she just doesn't want to see. Great idea to post it on my own fridge, maybe I can help my own girls at least. Xoxo. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteSo true. Especially females in our church who are taught to be non-judgmental, forgiving, and patient. They don't know the danger they are putting themselves into. We tend to want to "fix" these broken people, and all they do is break us instead. Awareness is the key.
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